I am a man and that is lucky.

I'm not hysterical even though I'm busy.

I don't waste my life with "what should I wear".

Can go off the scale without depression.

I throw things away, I don't have too much stuff.

And if something is broken, I'll make it whole.

Parking is easy: just in one go.

And we do the same thing, but I earn more!

I am a man and I think logically.

I don't live on diet drinks and three leaves of lettuce.

When I walk somewhere, I know the way back.

I turn an elephant into a mosquito in no time.

And even though I share the bed with thousands of women.

Am I just the man, instead of a slut.

When I say I'm done, then we can go!

And I can stand up while peeing!

I am a man yes, that pleases me.

I don't get drunk from two glasses of beer.

I know what "offside" is, that's why I'm yelling.

Because football is passion and the referee is an asshole.

I never cry in public.

Hey, I can catch it if someone throws something.

And I don't have to give birth, so no pain.

Isn't it great to be a man?

The answer to the poem above:

I'm a woman, and that's no bad luck.

Don't be bothered by aggression when I'm driving on the road.

At least I don't leave lights on for no reason.

And clean up all my messes behind me.

If I'm looking for something, I find it in 1 go!

Can call, cook and much more at the same time!

I don't notice much of a flu.

I'll take an aspirin and just go to work.

I deal with really important questions.

Instead of lamenting the football results!

Though being a woman is a great blessing,

Unfortunately, “The Man” is holding back our development!

Leaving him to fend for himself might be a piece of cake.

But who then irons his shirts and cooks his prakkie?

That's not the worst thing in this case.

What's really irritating in men: their bluster.

They think they are the best themselves.

They especially enjoy mocking women.

Of course we let them down.

Because they can't handle the truth psychologically:

Men are actually still a child.

That playing with cars finds the end.

No, men don't want to hear the truth:

Without a woman they are lost!

The poem above shows us how a certain category of Man sees Woman. It is clear to me that not all categories of men are subject to such "self-aggrandizement" (narcissism). Nevertheless, too many men are of the opinion that they can and should be superior to the Woman. I myself have always been curious where this kind of behavior comes from! In my opinion, this has more to do with old gender roles than with a stronger competitive streak.

The Man has always been seen as the head of the family since ancient times, as he is considered to be the main person responsible. The division of roles between Man and Woman has long been known.

This has apparently always worked well and probably with the assumption and permission of the Woman, barring exceptions! Because the Woman was often alone with her family, because the Man worked a lot outside the home or simply did not interfere, she had to cope in many ways. Perhaps that is why the Woman is at home in many markets; she often had to be creative and act as a jack-of-all-trades!

This has contributed to the fact that she almost always knew an answer or solution to unannounced situations! She often had no other choice, since she was responsible for what happened in the home in terms of domestic matters and for raising the offspring. Because of that variety of tasks she has learned to see her limits and learn to work with compensations. (Apart from the fact that the Woman can generally work very creatively and intuitively!)

Her relentless sense of responsibility to her husband and family has overshadowed and often placed her in last place! This is unacceptable and sad, because the Woman often gave her life for her family. Because of the boundless surrender and servitude of the Woman, many a Man has labeled her as a kind of “primeval mother” and approached her as such. This still appears to be the case today.

The question is therefore why the Woman has been able to develop better emotionally than the Man? In my opinion, this has to do with the division of roles of the Man in relation to the Woman, the male values and norms and the behavior inherent in this. The way of seeing and acting of the ancestors may be to blame for this. The Man has not learned to express or openly show his feelings. For example, a man should not cry, certainly not openly.

The accumulated emotions (including aggression, anger, frustrations, dependence and attachment) in the Man have made him closed and introverted. He often does not know how to deal with and express his feelings; his behavior is biased (paradoxical). If this continues, the Man learns not to discover and express his own feelings. This results in, among other things, macho, aggressive, dominant or arrogant behavior. Not every woman likes this; this will not please her!

Unfortunately, the Man is generally not emotionally mature; that's why he often doesn't know how to deal with his own feelings or those of his partner. He does not know how to define it and therefore often adopts flight behavior by denying feelings, among other things. Often the Man knows that his behavior is not plausible to himself and to another, but he does not know how to change it. So denial and the behavior inherent in it also remains an issue!

It seems as if the similar Man has entered into a competition with competencies between the Man and Woman, while the Woman does not see it that way. It also seems that the Man denigrates the Woman, probably with a paradoxical air: "I admire you and at the same time I humiliate you, because I don't know how to treat a Woman properly!"

The Woman actually asks for equality, respect, understanding and acceptance in her relationship; she is able to show herself and also demands this from her partner. This is often misunderstood by the Man with consequences. It seems that many a Man is jealous or fearful of the openness and ease with which the Woman works. That is probably why Man cannot see Woman as his equal; let alone he can work with her!

In our practice we show the Man the background of his behavior and why this has arisen. The same goes for the Woman. Traditional gender roles can make way for cooperation based on equality between Man and Woman!

It is time for society to see that their offspring should be given another chance in life. This can be done by learning to show more respect, patience and acceptance when working with the opposite sex. Cooperation with understanding, respect, patience and acceptance is still the right building block for the future; this is meant on all levels!

Anyway, I'm a big fan of this!

Audrey